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We're heading towards that time when suddenly it's not summer anymore and we have to start getting our shit together. I hate to break it to you, but very soon it will no longer be acceptable to slack off and spend the day sunbathing in your back garden. It's time to get back into the grind of everyday life, and my god it can be exhausting. The first day of getting back into things after summer.... does it take anyone else 10 million taps of the snooze button and a full-blown cry into their cereal bowl just to get out the front door in the morning on that particular day?

I always find it helpful to try, and I mean really try, to treat it like any other day. Doing simple things like sticking to your usual weekday routine, if you have one.


Get up and ready right away...

I'd be lying if I said there hadn't been mornings when I've been so exhausted and uninspired that I end  up staying in my pyjamas until two in the afternoon and not getting anything done. And sure, sometimes a day like this is much needed, but if you're planning a productive day then maybe staying in your pyjamas isn't the way to go? Mind you, some people work better in their pj's, but not me. That's why every morning I get up and ready as soon as my alarm goes off. But please, I'm not claiming to be superwoman here, we all know I'm far from it, but truthfully I just hate lie-ins (I know...) and not feeling fresh in the mornings. So, if you fancy being an #girlboss for the day and getting shit done then get out of bed, no matter how hard it may be, I promise it's worth it.

Eat a good breakfast

Although I eat breakfast every morning, my stomach will often be rumbling by 10am and that's most likely because I haven't eaten a filling breakfast. I mean, I'll usually go for the glam option, Shreddies, but clearly that's just not cutting it. So, I've recently started making breakfast smoothies and I kid you not they have saved my mornings. 
I think we've all gone through that week-long phase where we're like "I'm going to eat really healthily, I'm going to have Acai bowls for breakfast and Quinoa with salad for lunch" it never really lasts. But, I do find that I have a similar attitude with breakfast smoothies and it doesn't take much effort to continue making them and they are actually tasty, not to mention quick and easy to make.
I think the reason I'm so madly in love with making smoothies is because I'm a really terrible cook (trust me, my first attempt at making pancakes resulted in a pan bursting into flames...) and you don't have to have any talent for cooking to throw some fruit into a blender. All you need is a good sense of what food goes well together, and I'd say I have a decent knowledge in that area. Mind you I did make the mistake of blending milk and apple together...



Make a to-do list and prioritise 3 tasks

If you know me well then you'll know that to do lists are most definitely my fave. And as a result I can often go a little over the top when making them. So, I like to prioritise 3 main tasks, usually three things that I need to get done that day or anytime soon. However, when I say main jobs, I don't mean big jobs. Usually I'll try and get one big task done first followed up my other two prioritised tasks, which will often be a bit smaller. And if I have time I'll get some more done. But, I like to start off with three.


Get rid of all the distractions

What I'm trying to say is... turn off your phone. If you're attempting to have an uber productive day then having your phone next to you pinging with notifications every five seconds is not going to help you out AT ALL. I mean, the temptation to just read that text is going to distract you from what you really want to be focusing on, and once you've read it you'll most likely be typing a reply at a million and one miles an hour which will lead to a reply from whoever you're texting and then you're going to reply and then suddenly you've sent so many texts that it would be rude to ignore their messages now. You've well and truly fallen down the rabbit hole and oh look, you've waisted half an hour sending texts that really could wait until you're not busy. 


Being someone who doesn't suffer with Anxiety as a mental health issue, I can only ever imagine what it must be like to live with it. However, I am well aware that Anxiety is a real issue that is somewhat glorified by the media .


Whilst  Zoella coming out about her struggle with anxiety has helped young girls massively and made so many people realise that they aren't alone, I also think that lots of young girls have idolised her and in a way and aspired to be just like her. And even share the same struggles with mental health problems that she has. 

But, hear me out: I know full well that with Zoe being open about her Anxiety, it has prompted more young girls to be open about their struggles and I absolutely love how the media and the blogging industry have become places where we can openly discuss mental health and feel that we are in a safe environment whilst doing so. Through talking about it we are connected with like-minded people who can relate to our issues and in general it creates a sense of community and makes us feel less alone. This is absolutely amazing and I’m so happy that the media is being used in this positive way.


I'm not dismissing mental illness. I know that with Social Media the pressure on young people has massively increased and that does cause an increase in mental health issues such as anxiety. However,  I do think its important to remember that not every feeling of anxiety equals mental health problems.

Anxiety is a regular feeling just like happiness or sadness, and although excessive amounts of it may mean your dealing with it as a mental health issue, there are so many situations where we feel out of our comfort zones and everyones comfort zone is different. Just because one person finds something scary it a) doesn't mean nobody else shares that fear, you just don't know, b) doesn't mean you have anxiety. It's important to be able to dissociate feeling anxious as a normal feeling from feeling anxious as a mental health condition.



I'm very aware that this is a very controversial topic and that I may be sounding like a bit of a dick to some people. Let me explain:

It's impossible to blame one thing and one thing only for the glorification of mental illness, more specifically Anxiety. Although I do think one of the main reasons it happens is because we want a reason. We want a reason for feeling nervous, a reason for feeling uncomfortable, a reason for feeling upset. In some cases the reason is Anxiety in the form of a mental health issue. And in some cases the reason for feeling nervous could be because your in a situation where you don't feel one hundred percent comfortable. We need to be able to see the difference between the two.



In the past year or so I've somehow managed to muster the courage to shoot my Instagram photos outside. Like the in public kind of outside. It was definitely daunting the first few times, especially because I live in London and finding a quiet road is very nearly impossible if you're going central. But, I've gotten used to it and I'm relatively comfortable in front of the camera now.


'Do it for the gram' has become my moto in the past few months. There have been a fair number of occasions where shooting in front of the public has been hellish and the only thing stopping me from giving up is the thought of how gorgeous my feed will look after. Like that time outside Wild At Heart when a family with two children decided to stand right in front of me and watch. Or in Notting Hill when I was posing on a door step just when the man who lived there pulled up in his car and had to shoo away the many bloggers having their photo taken. And of course, the time in Primrose bakery when the guy sat next to me shouted "CORBYN'S GOING TO KILL US ALL." Can't say any of those were pleasant experiences...

However, as crappy as I may make it sound, shooting outside isn't as bad as you'd think. I found it quite reassuring just thinking that everyone will assume I'm a tourist, and nobody bats an eyelid when tourists have their photo taken. It's London for god sake.

It's been a year since I delved into the world of public Insta shoots and I have to say, I've learnt a couple of lessons since.


DO IT FOR THE GRAM

To get a decent picture, you sometimes have to do things that may look just a teeny bit crazy to people walking past. For example, those photos where I'm flicking my hair... did you think I'd get that shot first time round? Absolutely not. Believe it or not, I actually spend about two minutes standing in the middle of Central London shaking my head back and forth just to get that one photo. Now two minutes may not seem like a long time, but can you image how dizzy you'd be after continuously spinning your head around for that amount of time?

YOU'RE NOT GOING TO SEE ANY OF THESE PEOPLE AGAIN

If you think about it all of these people are total strangers. So, who cares if they see you looking a bit awkward posing for the camera? And if they pay you any attention, it's only because they're interested. They're not, I repeat not, making fun of you. And on the very rare occasion that they are, who are they to judge?


GO FOR IT

Gone are the days of standing stock still in your outfit photos.
Move around, walk, spin, do the hair touch.

And if you are going to stand still at least use your outfit and accessories to your advantage. Use your pockets, hold your bag and my personal fave... touch your hair.


SORT YOUR OUTFITS IN ADVANCE

Whoever's taking your photos is not going to want to stand around waiting for you to pick your outfit. DO IT THE NIGHT BEFORE! It wastes so much time, especially if you've invested in a professional photographer. Picking your outfit is wasting precious time, get your money's worth of photos, please.

You know what else wastes time? Standing in line for the toilet in order to get changed. If your comfortable changing in the streets it might be a better idea, time wise. Just make sure you get yourself a pair of bicycle shorts and something to cover your tits.

I'd also recommend packing your outfits together, just to make sure you aren't caught squatting on the pavement frantically searching through your bag for that one piece of clothing that seems to have disappeared..... true story.



I may not be all that big on fashion, but I am a bit of a jewellery lover. And whilst I would usually describe myself as more of a minimalist when it comes to jewellery, I've lately started to discover that I do love a statement piece too. But it definitely has to be balanced...




Kaytie Wu's waterdrop collection is nothing less than a dream. The ring is a particular favourite of mine. In fact, I saw something similar on Emily James' Instagram feed and instantly fell in love. But if I'm honest, I couldn't find anything like it that wouldn't break the bank. However, seeing this piece on the Kaytie Wu website I was surprised by the pricing, it's SO affordable, yet SO beautiful at the same time. And no, my finger has not yet turned green so I think it's safe to say that the quality is just perfect for what you pay.



Can we also talk about how suitable these pieces are for Autumn? They could probably be pulled off any season but there is something about them that screams Autumn. I'm thinking, white t-shirt, black skinny jeans and a chunky knit cardigan, paired with a couple of layered necklaces and this ring, no?


To top it all off, I've been pairing the ring with this equally gorgeous bangle. And I've definitely been a bit in love with the whole arm-swag thing going on with all this new jewellery. I painted my nails red and now I just can't stop looking at my hands with the rings and the bangles. If it's possible to be in love with your own hands then I think that would sum up my current mental state perfectly.



* All jewellery featured are PR samples from Kaytie Wu. All opinions are my own.
Confession: I don't read much. I know, I know, I should do it more, but I'm but I'm not really the type to sit down and just read. I mean, when I do read I do it in the evening, but lately I've taken to a scroll through Instagram instead. I hate that I do this and I do try not to, but then there's just one more photo I want to like, and that one turns into ten and then that ten turns into an uncountable number....

One of the possible reasons for this could be that I struggle to find reading material that I actually like and won't get bored of after a couple of chapters. I'm a typical millennial and don't like reading something that will drag on, which is why I'm most definitely a magazine lover. Marie Claire, to be specific.


Another issue I face with finding a good book is the amount of non-fiction books that a just bullish*t. I like self-help books that aren't too self-helpish if you get me? I want someone to offer me a better solution to something without using that strange soothing tone, somewhat similar to a therapist that self help books often use. If you tell me to "Start from the begging, re-live it all" then I'll know this is not the book for me. I have hurled a self-help book across my room before, just FYI. They're not my thing.

However, there are a couple of books I've discovered that have the same message that a self-help book would offer, but they're written in a comedic way. Which is something I love, I don't like it when people take themselves too seriously. I think we all know what books I'm talking about right now... it's the Sarah Knight ones.



The Life changing magic of not giving a f**k

Whilst I was reading this, my Instagram inbox was full to the brim with messages from various different people asking how the book was or telling me how much they'd loved it when they read it. Turns out a lot of people had their eye on it, but weren't quite sure if it would be worth a read. Well I can confirm it definitely is.

Usually with a book like this, I'll enjoy the read but not really take much away from it. With this particular book this was not the case. I found myself questioning wether or not I gave a f**k about certain situations and wether or not they were worth my energy for a long time afterwards.

The book taught me to think of the f**k's I give as if they are money, or real life objects. You wouldn't go around handing out money to anyone or anything with no thought, or just to be nice. Why do it with your f**k's?


The F Word

The F word seem's to be a bit of a reoccurring theme here!?

The F word is a book all about Female friendship and Lily Pebbles documents her experience of friendship with other women beautifully in the book. It was honestly one of the most relatable reads and you're bound to see your own friendships in the book as there is a chapter for each type of friend.

I loved the chapter titled 'The single friend'. Lily described her as the one who is always feeling a bit left out due to the circumstances, even when you try to include them it just doesn't work out for a reason you can't change. In her case, the single friend didn't feel comfortable being around their friends when their partners were there. This was the chapter I found the most relatable, although none of my friends are dating (were a lonely bunch.... jokes, were happy single!) I have experienced friends not being as involved in the group as others for a reason that can't be changed. Which was something I saw a similarity to in the chapter about the single friend.





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