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11 July 2018

The 4 things an Instagram detox taught me

With all the chat about 'the instagrammer taking over the blogger' circulating the blogosphere, it did worry me that I had taken a two month (unintentional) Instagram detox.
To be honest, I never thought about it as though it were a bad thing and it happened naturally. I didn’t just wake up one day and decide to take a break, I think I just didn’t have anything I was desperate to post.
But, every now and then for the first week or so of my accidental detox, I would suddenly think "Shit, I haven't posted anything in a week" and silently hope people weren’t unfollowing. 
Though at the same time, It wouldn’t have bothered me if they had, and they did.

I don't know about anyone else, but for me Instagram is one stressful social media site. The pressure to post photos on a daily basis, or to have a feed full of photos that compliment each other, to be active on Instagram stories and now to be sharing videos on IGTV. It's a lot to keep up with and has got me questioning the way I share my content.


I don't want to share 'perfect' photos 
Something I've felt a lot of pressure to do in the past is to post 'perfect' Instagram photos. Perfectly lit, perfectly edited... you know what I mean. But, newsflash: I don't have a camera man following me around 24/7. And I don't have all day to be out taking photos. My photos are taken all in one day and I use them to cover the next two months. Which is why you'll see the same outfit popping up again, and again and again.
What I'm trying to say is that I'm not at all interested in posting photos that look stunning. However, I’m not saying I'm going to go ahead and share my blurry, non-thought out shots. I'm still one hundred percent up for making an effort with my photography, but I'm not going to get caught up in producing photos that are 'perfect' because what is a perfect photo anyway? It can be stressful, especially when comparing your work to other peoples. It's not fun and it's not what blogging is about.

Influencer or blogger? 
I think Instagram is a platform suited much better to (excuse my language) influencers. However, I've come to realise that that is not what I am. I personally believe that a blogger can be an influencer, of course they can, but a blogger isn't always an influencer. I would class myself as a blogger. 
But, of course anything you read has some sort of impact or influence on you, which is why what I write will have some sort of influence on people reading, but I would never say that what I specifically do is influence. I would always say I blog.

Before taking a lengthy break from the Instagram world, this was something I was quite confused about. Typically, when you think of a blogger you think of the brand collaborations and the press trips and the 'glamourous' lifestyle they lead. Heck, I change my outfit in the McDonald's toilets when I'm out shooting, but that's beside the point.
Throughout my Instagram break I did ask myself many times if I would be able to carry on my blog in the same way without Instagram. And the answer is yes, because I'm not blogging as an influencer, I'm blogging as me.


Keeping it real
Speaking of the 'blogger lifestyle', I would like to make one thing very clear: It's an illusion. No, bloggers do not have it all together, despite what you might think. It all comes down to the fact that nobody wants to show their bad days on Instagram, so... everything we share sums up our happy moments. To be honest, if your having a shitty day you're not really going to whip out your phone and take a quick selfie for Instagram are you?

As much as I know all this, seeing a sugar-coated version of everyone else's lives can get me down, and the internet can be such a negative place. Despite the fact that this blog and all of its social platforms are nothing but positive, just being online and on a screen so much can have it's down sides. Which has definitely become apparent to me since limiting my screen time to this blog, and this blog only.


I don't actually care that much...
If there is one thing taking a break has taught me, it's that I couldn't care less about numbers. Obviously, with being a little quiet on Instagram (one of my main sources of traffic to this blog) my engagement has gone down a little, but I don't even care at all. Sure, I did think "Oh, that post hasn't
done as well as I expected" but after that thought had passed I was fine. Because what difference do numbers actually make?

Another thing Instagram made me realise I couldn't give a f--- about is what celebrities are doing.
I've never been one to obsessively follow the media, or care much about who's dating who, but what I realised is that I honestly couldn't care less about wether or not Selena Gomez is back with Justin Bieber or what Hailey Baldwin and Shawn Mendes' relationship actually is, because it benefits my life in no way.


So, this is me waving goodbye to the stress that comes with Instagram, and saying hello to a chilled out version of what I've previously been doing.
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28 comments

  1. You brought up a really good point in this post is that you are not blogging as an influencer, but as you. It's so important to be able to make this identification and fully understand why you are blogging. For me, it's a little bit of both, and frankly it can be hard to find the balance. I want to blog about things that interest me and I'm passionate about, but I also have to think about what my readers are interesting in seeing, what drives the most views, and so on and so for. I have to think about both my role as an influencer and to myself. xx

    www.beingisabella.com

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    1. I understand what you mean about thinking about what your followers would like to see. But, in a way I also think that if you post about what you love, then you'll attract an audience of people with similar interest, so it all works out quite well xx

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  2. Girl this is such a beautiful post... sometimes it's good to take a step back and have a break to see the bigger picture :)

    x Lisa | lisaautumn.com

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    1. I completely agree. Glad you liked the post xx

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  3. I completely agree with you and share the same thoughts.

    www.exclusivebeautydiary.com

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    1. Instagram can be a huge struggle x

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  4. I love your distinction between influencer and blogger. I think it will be a conversation that will start to happen, as not all bloggers are influencers, and not all influencers are bloggers!

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    Meredith
    LATEST POST | INSTAGRAM

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    1. This is so true. I really hope people start to realise this so that influencers and bloggers aren't pushed into the same box so often x

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  5. I have a love hate relationship with IG, but resonate with your point about being able to blog in the same way even without IG. I often post heaps of photos on my blog that never make it to the IG feed because I like to keep platforms somewhat distinct and unique!

    Vivian | LIVE IN LOVE
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    1. Me too, although taking tons of photos for both your blog and your Instagram is so time consuming and I often find it hard for them to be separate in terms of photo styles xx

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  6. I love how you learned in this thing and i exactly feel how you feel! I think everyone should really have a social media detox. :)

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    1. Absolutely! It's so helpful and puts things into perspective x

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  7. I share your sentiment. Since I've stopped worrying too much about Instagram likes and so forth, my life is back to where it should be - a lot more carefree. I agree that the "blogger lifestyle" is not quite as one would think and to be honest I'm not really sure if I want to chase after it either x

    franklyflawless.com

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    1. I mean, chasing after it would be pointless anyway and probably make you feel even worse because the 'perfection' that comes across in the 'blogger lifestyle' just doesn't exist.

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  8. Lovely post! I couldn't agree more about the blogger not always being an influencer (ugh *cringe* hate that word!) but blogging being far more than that!
    xx, Janine
    https://walkinmysneaks.blogspot.com/

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    1. Absolutely! Ugh... the word influencer is just so gross x

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  9. I found it super interesting that you consider yourself to be a blogger and not an influencer, as I always tend to find myself using the two interchangably (providing they have a blog of course!). I do sometimes consider if I should take a break from IG but I end up worrying falling behind on my friends lives, especially as it's summer holidays right now, but after your post I think I might have to reconsider it.

    Debbie J
    https://brewingcolour.wordpress.com/

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    1. Aww I'm glad I've made you re-consider. All I can say is that I found it to be very refreshing, and actually encouraged me to phone my friends rather than text them, which I guess is a little closer to being 'real'.

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  10. I used to stress out so much about posting but this year, I only post whatever I like and perfect photos or not, they are going up as long as they make me happy! x

    Yiota
    https://pinkdaisyloves.blogspot.com/

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    1. Oh my gosh this is such a great attitude to have towards social media. I try to be like that, but sometimes I care a little too much. xx

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  11. Instagram was also for me really stressful. And now I'm on my detox and I feel much happier
    Miss Uncover | YouTube

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    1. YASSS GIRL! I'm so glad you're happy x

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  12. thanks for sharing what you learned!


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  13. You're completely right and to be frank about the keeping it real bit, I don't know why I strive to seem perfect sometimes when really my favourite bloggers to read are the people being an open book about their lives and not keeping up some false perfect image. I love personal narratives, I don't really care if your pictures have professional lighting or not as long as your content is real.

    https://shameta.blogspot.com

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    1. Me too, I'll always prefer someone to be brutally honest, like Hannah Gale than for someone to share a fake persona x

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  14. I absolutely LOVED this post! I went off Instagram for a weekend a few weeks back and it was freeing. I wasn't thinking about numbers or engagement or where other people were traveling. Just like you, it made me realize that you can blog and be a blogger without Instagram. Yes, IG is a huge platform right now, but it's so not necessary to play that game if it hurts your mental health or if you simply just don't enjoy it.

    Sharan Gill Blog // Instagram

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