Fashion, Lifestyle and Interior

27 October 2018

I'm not an Insta girl... so what am I?

When I started my Instagram account four years ago, I used it purely to talk to like-minded people and to post photos along side my blog. While the reason behind using Instagram, for me, hasn't changed massively, the pressure has.

In the last four years things have gotten a little more serious, and I've had to start considering what I share and what I don't. And I'm not going to lie, I've had some major melt downs about what my feed looks like. Posting blurry photos of my cats just isn't an option anymore because things have changed and I should probably start considering my audience to some extent. But then again, if cat photos are your thing, give me a shout...

What I don't want is an uber professional looking, squeaky clean feed. That's just not my thing.
Writing this blog and running my Instagram account, I always make an effort to show reality and not a highlights reel because I don't want to be that girl who seems to be at fancy restaurants 24/7 with her camera man following her around just to get that perfect shot. Purely because that's not my life, nor is it any bloggers life.
But, at the same time I do want my feed to look nice, I wouldn't post just any photo because the photos have to be of decent quality.

I'm going to be one hundred percent honest here and say that I find it really difficult to be relatable enough. Meaning, I don't like sharing too many PR packages because I don't like my friends thinking I just get 'free' stuff all the time for absolutely nothing but then I don't always want to talk about the shitty bits in life because in a way, the people following me and reading my blog are total strangers and sometimes it does feel a bit personal. Trying to come across as honest and relatable is stressful.

I also feel a pressure to be active. Essentially, I feel a pressure to just use Instagram. I'm not someone who is naturally drawn to social media and I'm not someone who comments on absolutely everything. I'll occasionally interact with something that I can really relate to, like when Chloe Plumstead posted an Instagram story about catcalling, but apart from that I'd say I'm more of a quiet follower, which makes it a little more difficult to network with people and build those online relationships.

And most of all, time is an issue. I don't have enough time to be an Insta girl. I don't have the time, or money even, to be eating in 'instagrammable' cafe's and travelling around London all the time.

It's things like this that really get me questioning what I want my online presence to be?

I feel like the media only really shines a light on one type of 'influencer', the fashion blogger. And from that it can be so easy to think that a blogger is simply someone sharing their 'perfect' lives online. It's like you hear "Blogger" and think pretty cafe's, outfit of the day's and swanky holidays. But, really a blogger is just someone with a blog. A blog being a website run by an individual.

We think of the 'Blogger lifestyle' but I'd argue that the sugar-coated lives we see on Instagram is more of an 'influencer' lifestyle than a blogger lifestyle.

Truth be told, I'm not an Insta girl. I hate the pressure to be constantly reeling out new content and I don't even enjoy using the app. So, why did I even bother with it in the first place? Because I didn't realise that a blogger and an 'influencer' are two totally different things and I thought that to be a blogger I should be posting outfit photos and doing what everyone else was doing.

Thinking about it, I started this blog four years ago because I liked magazines and I wanted a space where I could in a way, write my own. I didn't start this for 'free' stuff or because I wanted to make some extra money from PR's and brand collaborations. That is the way it's gone but all the commercial side of things, like Instagram just isn't my cup of tea.

So, I'm waving goodbye to Instagram and welcoming back a simpler blogging style.



  1. I totally understand your point about ig. It can become very stressful!
    Love your striped pants!

    1. Thanks lovely - they're from Brandy Melville x

  2. I couldn't agree more dear. Indeed, it's not easy running both social media and blog at the same time. It takes a lot of work, and can be really stressful in the long run. Thanks for sharing your thoughts about it dear, this is such an insightful read.

    Jessica |


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